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One for the Money ~~ Two for the Show

Posted on: January 13, 2010

I’m usually one to come up with my own topics on things, but every once in a while I will see something on the message boards that sparks a story or two from deep down in the recesses of my addled, old brain.

Today the boards are full of things about “putting on a show” for mens pleasure. Meaning that even two women that aren’t necessarily attracted to each other will “make out” so that it entertains and turns their men on. Oh please…… I do believe an entire industry was built on this premise….the Porn Industry. That’s one of the reasons that I don’t really enjoy porn. There is so much of it that is fake that I don’t like watching it. Now, don’t get me wrong. I totally understand that men are much more visual creatures than women are. They are stimulated by what they see and hear, and aren’t very picky about the fact that it may not be “real”.  And that’s all good with me. My husband loves porn. And sometimes I know he wants to strangle me when he’s watching it, getting turned on, and I start talking about all the “ooohs and aaahhhs” being so phoney.  I can’t help it though. Now a good movie that has some really hot sex scene in it will turn me on in a minute. When it’s part of the plot….I get that. But the staged sex, with a sheet or a piece of fakey silk as a backdrop over a coffee table just doesn’t do it for me…Sorry…LOL

I am a Bisexual woman. I’ve lived as a Lesbian for 7 years in my lifetime. But that was because I was raised a good Catholic girl and I always felt that I had to choose. I had to like men. Well, when I discovered that I could be attracted to women, I felt like I had to choose JUST  them. When I discovered the lifestyle, and the fact that I didn’t have to choose, I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. I could play with women and have a steady man. Because, the most important relationship that I have is with a man. However, I do enjoy women. And I’ve been told by many that I am very good at pleasing them. I actually like to tell folks that there are 2 things in this world that I’m very good at….and one of them is Cooking !!!  Guess the other one.

So, the discussion has been about whether it ok for the woman in a couple to just want to put on a show for her man….if she is really straight and has no real interest in the woman of the other couple, or the single woman. My take on it is that it IS ok, so long as it is discussed ahead of time. It would be no more ethical or kind to lead another woman on in thinking that she was really the object of this womans attention, when in fact she’s just what I call “the appetizer” for her and her man.  In my book ANYTHING is ok as long as it’s negotiated ahead of time. If all parties agree then go for it !

I’ve been in that place. I have been just a couples “desert” and it’s ok with me.  I am a natural pleaser. I will do what I do because not only does it please the couple or the man….it pleases me. That’s how I get off.

And on the other topic of who pays? Well, that’s cut and dry for me. We split everything the first time. If it becomes a regular thing, then we take turns…and that means in hosting or paying for a room, drinks, or dinner.

Long as it’s fun……Let’s do it !! 



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I am: an Air Force vet, Mom, sister, friend, Lifestyler, and all-around smartass with a heart of gold. I have lived all over the far East and learned many things about people and cooking, art and true value. I like to share my experience with the rest of the world. I will be the most loyal friend or most annoying enemy you've ever known. Honest to a fault. My life has not always been easy, but it has never ever been boring.

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